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Robert St. John

Restaurateur, author, enthusiastic traveler, & world-class eater.


July 31, 2019

The first spiritual gifts test I took as a part of a church group came back and listed my primary spiritual gift as the gift of hospitality. A few years later I took another spiritual gifts test and the results were the same— hospitality. Then, 20 years ago, as a part of a parenting workshop, I took another spiritual gifts evaluation. The result was unchanged. According to three separate evaluations, I have the spiritual gift of hospitality.

It’s not like I led a life sheltered from Sunday School and principles of the church— as a kid I was there when the doors were open— but I was 40-years old before I knew there was anything such as a spiritual gift.

At first, I was a little upset. Others in my group were getting evaluated with the spiritual gift of leadership or giving. A couple had the spiritual gift of wisdom. I already knew I probably wasn’t in possession of that one. But hospitality? All I could think of was Mrs. Lampkin, the church hostess when I was a little kid. She made meals for the church and fed us on Wednesday evenings. She was a sweet enough lady, but I didn’t want to be a Mrs. Lampkin. I wanted to be one of the leaders filled with wisdom.

It would be cool to have as a primary spiritual gift the gift of giving or mercy. Those would be awesome spiritual gifts. The spiritual gift of prophecy would be an awesome gift to keep in my back pocket, though I think, in my hands, it might be misused.

So, hospitality it is. After a little while it began to make sense. Is it nature or nurture, I thought? I was born in a state whose motto is “The Hospitality State.” That was appropriate. Maybe all of the politeness and entertaining I was exposed to in my youth helped form this spiritual gift. On the nurture end, the standards set by my grandmother and mother were primary examples of how to treat and entertain others by preparing meals and hosting them in all sorts of situations.

But I imagine spiritual gifts are neither nature nor nurture. They are divinely prescribed. If I were Presbyterian, I might say they are predestined. The Wesleyan in me will just accept that this is the way it is supposed to be, now pass the casserole.

Looking back, it makes perfect sense. At 15-years old I began working fulltime as a radio station disc jockey. That early career satisfied two interests— making enough money to purchase a car and have spending money, and the privilege to be around music all of the time. Though, I always knew that was not going to be my end game. Within the first hour of the first shift in the first restaurant I ever worked in, I knew— not just this is what I want to do as a career, but— this is what I am SUPPOSED to do. I fell in love with the hospitality industry, hard. It felt right. I wanted to do it, and it didn’t seem like work. It never has. I don’t think it ever will. I am lucky that I get to do what I love doing, and I get paid a little for it.

Out of the restaurant business grew all of these other activities and careers that I never imagined I would be doing— books, tv shows, writing, and travel. A lot of my writing has to do with turning people on to people, places, restaurants, and locations I have discovered. It’s a different brand of hospitality. There is something deep inside me that has always enjoyed turning people on to things— music, little known restaurants, out-of-the-way destinations, and the like. I often do that with my writing. I also do it as a tour leader.

In the past three years, along with my best friend and business partner, Wyatt Waters, we have led 13 groups of 25 people each to Italy. We have five tours coming up in the next 10 months to Italy and one to Spain. We have also led two groups of 40 each all through Mississippi on our Magical Mississippi Tour (with another tour coming up this September). Someone asked me the other day, don’t you get tired of touring the same places? Well, we change the tours up all of the time. We are constantly tweaking and improving the schedules. We also add new locations, as we are hitting Rome, the Amalfi Coast and Naples twice this fall, and Spain next spring.

But even if we were going to the same exact places and eating at the same restaurants and staying in the same villas and hotels, it would still feel new. We only get one first time to experience something. Nothing is as impactful as when one sees Michelangelo’s “David” for the first time, or Botticelli’s “Birth of Venus,” or the Cathedral in Milan, or touring inside the Vatican at night. Once that first time is over, there will never be another first time. Though when we take other people to those places, sights, and monuments— and we see them experience it for the first time— it’s like we are experiencing them for the first time.

It even happens on our Magical Mississippi Tours. We have toured Mississippi with people from as far away as Oregon, in addition to people who have lived in Mississippi their entire lives. They all get to see people, places, and sights they never even knew existed in Mississippi. Waters and I have seen them countless times, but to be with our guests when they experience them for the first time allows us to relive that first-time moment, we had years ago.

I am halfway through a different kind of tour right now. Our friend and tour guide in Tuscany, Marina Mengelberg, is stateside with her two teenage children. They are Dutch but have lived in Tuscany for years. I am taking them on a southern journey to a lot of the places I love, and the places they have heard me talk about. We started in New Orleans, then moved up to Hattiesburg where we held a surprise party for Mengelberg including over 100 people she has met on our tours over the past couple of years, then to Jackson, the Florida Panhandle, and back to New Orleans. It has been interesting seeing the south through their eyes. I’ll have a complete account in next week’s column.

In the meantime, I’ve got to go practice a little more hospitality. In the end, maybe it’s not such a bad spiritual gift after all.


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